Relationships and lung conditions

Find out about dating and talking to a partner when you have a lung condition 

Telling a new partner about your lung condition

Being open about your lung condition means that your partner will be able to help you manage your condition. It also means that they will be prepared if you have an asthma attack or flare-up of your lung condition. 

Only speak to your partner when you feel comfortable and ready. 

“Your lung condition is part of you, but it’s not the whole story.” – Caroline, Respiratory Nurse Specialist at Asthma + Lung UK. “There’s no need to tell somebody right away if you don’t want to. It might just come up naturally in conversation.”

Going on dates with a lung condition

Dating is not an issue for most people with lung conditions, but scented candles and other types of indoor air pollution could affect your symptoms on dates.   

Your date might involve food or alcohol. Going on a date could also cause strong emotions. If you have asthma, these things could trigger your symptoms.

Using medicines in front of a partner

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, you might feel nervous about using your medicines in front of a partner. It’s really important to keep taking your medicines as prescribed, because otherwise your symptoms could turn into an asthma attack or flare-up of your lung condition.

If you feel nervous or embarrassed, try to remember: 

  • Lung conditions are common. 1 in 5 people in the UK live with a lung condition. This means that most people live with a lung condition, or know somebody who does
  • You don’t have to let them know immediately that you have a lung condition. You could take your medicines in private, for example in the bathroom, until you feel ready. 

Managing your asthma well means you’re less likely to get symptoms or need to use your reliever inhaler. 

Relationships

Everyone is different when it comes to relationships. It is important that you’re able to talk to your partner about your feelings, especially when you’re living with a long-term lung condition. 

If you need extra help with the emotional side of your relationship,  relationship counselling could help. It can help you and your partner explore your feelings and suggest practical steps for moving forward. You can find relationship counselling services through the NHS.

We also have a lot of information about how to manage your mental health while living with a lung condition

Get support

Call our Helpline for support with your condition. Get advice on your medicines, symptoms or travelling with a lung condition, or just call us to say hello.

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