Be kind to yourself this Christmas

It can be especially hard to deal with grief at Christmas, when everyone around you seems to be celebrating. Here are some tips on looking after yourself at this difficult time.

Charlotte, In Memory team
Published 10th November 2022

Plan ahead

Discuss how you’re feeling and agree with your friends and family what you want to do this Christmas. Do you want to do the same as usual or try something different such as volunteering or going somewhere new?

Be patient with yourself and others

Allow yourself to feel your feelings, and don’t be surprised if you are suddenly thrown off track by something unexpected. There is no timetable for what you should feel or when. Allow the people around you to grieve in their own way, too.

Do something special to remember your loved one

Plan a way to celebrate the person you’ve lost, whether it’s carrying on one of their family traditions, lighting a candle for them, looking at old photos or visiting a place they used to love.

Take time out

You may find yourself overwhelmed now and then, and just want a break away from the festivities and Christmas television. It’s important you take time for yourself. Find a quiet place in the house for a short while, or go out for a walk and get some fresh air.

Ask for help

Don’t try to deal with grief alone. Seek help from friends, family, a counsellor or from a helpline such as Cruse on 0808 808 1677. Your healthcare team can also offer you support. If you are struggling to cope, don’t be afraid to talk to your GP.

You can find more advice on coping with the death of a loved one on our website. You can also call our friendly helpline team on 0300 222 5800 for their expert advice and support.

Get support

Call our helpline for support with your condition. Get advice on your medicines, symptoms or travelling with a lung condition, or just call us to say hello.

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